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Posted Nov 13, 2016 10:49pm
Do mail order bride really exist?
The answer is Yes, and No, it really depends on your definition of 
mail order brides.
The historical roots of the mail-order bride industry that emerged in 
the 1800s in the American frontier:  European American men found 
financial success in the migration West, but the one thing that was 
missing was the company of a wife. Very few women lived there at this 
time, so it was hard for these men to settle down and start a family. 
They attempted to attract women living back East; the men wrote 
letters to churches and published personal advertisements in 
magazines and newspapers. In return, the women would write to the men 
and send them photographs of themselves. Courtship was conducted by 
letter, until a woman agreed to marry a man she had never met.[9] 
Many women wanted to escape their present way of living, gain 
financial security and see what life on the frontier could offer 
them. Most of these women were single, but some were widows, 
divorcees or runaways.
During most of the 20 century,  the mail order bride continued  with 
the main method of women putting themselves in catalogs. Then men 
would view the women's profile, then for a fee order the women 
address. These became the main order bride companies business method 
in the 20 the century, with the fall of the Soviet union and cheap 
airfares,  these companies  spread from Asian to Eastern  Europe, 
mainly  now the Ukraine
Today most women do not leave their countries to escape poverty but 
to seek a man they believe will be a good husband and  provider, that 
is family orientated and that looks at women with more respect than 
in many countries around the world.
With the advent of the intent, the mail order bride industry boomed  
into a billion dollar industry, Now with a few pictures and website, 
anyone could be in the mail order bride business.   With hundreds of 
ma and pop shops opening over the last two decade, Most who were 
clients of one of the three original mail order bride companies,  A 
Foreign Affair (AFA), Anastasia and EC,  The owner  of  met his wife while working on  a tour  from,  A Foreign affair  still today in the largest in the 
industry, each week they offer tours to one of a dozen countries  
China to Peru and everywhere in between.  The industry  grew so fast 
in 1998, Senator Cantwell of Washington state  introduces legislation 
to regulate the mail order bride industry.  and a new law Called:  
"International Marriage Brokers Act"  or IMBRA was born. With stiff 
regulations, many companies like Anastasia moved from Bride business 
to Fantasy Chat.
Although the industry  strongly objects to the term mail order 
brides,  saying  there is no difference if   man  in New York 
courting a woman from California through, then courting a 
woman from Russia. Critics  like the Terra Justice Center  has a 
different out look, saying these men take advantage of women oversea. 
But studies have contradicted these statement and show abuse is 
actually  lower in these marriages. See "International Marriages - A 
Report to Congress"
So why do thousands of women join these site: Elena  Kosalova of the 
Ukraine says, "Men here are not serious about family,  they expect 
women to stay home while they go out each night with their  friends 
and drink. I want  a man who s serious, mature and who wants to be 
with his wife and family.  I have met Americans in the past and they 
seem more reliable and mature."  Elena rejects the idea  she is a 
"Mail Order Bride"
Why do men seek  a mail order bride:  James Goodwin, 43 of South 
Carolina says, " I  meet women here all the time, but I just can not 
find the values I am looking for..  I have dated here for more than 
20 years, After three days in Kiev, I was shock at how many beautiful 
women I met that I would consider marrying,  now I am just trying to 
reduce my options and pick the right one. It truly is the fastest way 
to find a beautiful sincere women.
So what is the cost,  the cost can range greatly from site to site 
and from type of service,  AFA or offers everything from 
letter writing, tours and executive services for the rich and famous. 
As little as $12 to as much as $25,000.  The owner John Adams say's 
the best way is just go over and meet then women, avoid letters and 
never waste money on expensive chat.  You can meet up to 1000 
beautiful women in just 10 days, it will be the greatest vacation of 
your life. Joe Nail of, has stayed with the 
traditional  Letter Writing, Each letter is $7.50 and  but say they 
do plan on offer some limited chat option.
Many sites like,,, and, that offer simple unlimited membership for $29 
per month. These type of site also target pacific regions, like Asia, 
Latin America or Eastern Europe.
There is  also a site for  mail order grooms;, 
that caters to men publishing their photos in hopes to meet an 
American Bride.
James Dunn, who is a ghost writer for  review sites says "You  get 
what you pay for.  Membership sites to do not screen the members at 
all. so you never know who  you really are writing,  The big boys 
require the women to apply in person in one of their  local offices. 
The companies that offer group tours will introduce you to hundreds 
of beautiful  women, for the cost of $1000 to $3000 depending on 
location, about the same you would pay for any  vacation.  Several 
companies also do individual tours these can range from $750 to 
$1500, But only arrange one to one introductions,  Always make sure 
they are biased in the USA  or EU,  Most of the complaints  come from 
small agencies that are desperate and need to make as much as they 
can from you.  Just a note, if the company is based in an a foreign  
country you will have no   recourse if they do not follow through.
So do mail order  brides exist, If you belive a if a  woman  is a 
mail order bride if she lives in another   county then Yes, But if 
you believe it  just another dating option like any on-line dating 
site, matchmaker or  dating service, than No. . It really seems like 
a doubled standard in the world,  If a women meets a man in Italy or 
France,  then oh that is so romantic, but if a man meets a women in 
Philippines, than ....

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Posted Nov 18, 2016 3:36am

Interestingly, I never heard of such.

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